Many a times, boyfriends get angry at their girlfriends for attracting guys, saying that they must have given other guys the wrong impression by being too close to them or not doing enough to avoid unnecessary attention. However, it is seldom the girl's fault, is it?
Case 1 : Guys are generally attracted to beautiful objects and it is only natural for a guy to fall for some pretty or charismatic girl whom they may not even know. In this case, is it the girl's fault that some desperado is going after her?What do you expect the girl to do, disfigure herself so that no guy will ever be attracted to her beauty?
Case 2: Girls that are warm and affable are usually well-liked. Now, here comes the problem. Some guy(usually those kind that dont have many friends) starts liking the girl because she talks to him or thinks(or should i say dreams) that she likes him because she talks to him(dotz). But she is nice to EVERYONE, not exclusively him! Even the poor old man on the street will receive just as much kindness from her. So what should she do? Practise double standards by being sociable to girls only and being cold and aloft to other guys?
Case 3: Sometimes, the boyfriend is just being over-sensitive, thinking that some guy like his girl because that guy has been nice to her. However, that guy has not done anything explicit to indicate interest, so it is not really reasonable to shun him totally. Maybe he is just amiable to everyone. Misinterpreting someone's friendliness as interest is a common misunderstanding between people. Assuming that a guy likes the girl will make the girl seems like overrating herself too much, as if everyone likes her. You get what i mean.
That being said, the girlfriend still has the obligation to avoid any guy who starts to manifest interest in her.It is only right that she keeps away from him and makes things clear to him- that she is attached and not at all willing to jeopardise her relationship with her boyfriend. If he remains undeterred(some people just choose to fan jian, dont you think?), then the boyfriend is welcomed to bash that irritating guy up and warn him to steer clear. And, the boyfriend should not blame it all on the girl(unless being attractive or nice is a crime) since she has done everything she could and never once has been unfaithful.
In the end, it all boils down to insecurity and lack of trust. If a guy is confident in himself and treats his girlfriend well, he should have no fear of her leaving him for someone else. Even if she does, it is her loss. If he trusts his girlfriend enough, he will know that she will never ever cheat on him.
posted by dreamz @ 6:58 PM
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